How much is too much? I suppose its a valid observation to make about a chat community, SST certainly falls into that category. I am not saying there is a right or wrong answer to that question, just throwing it out there to think on. Just my view on the subject, what I've seen...
I think SST is a great place, lots of different sorts of people find their way to the site. I've noted before how some members share more than others, not that any of them are wrong to do so. But sometimes I wonder if there is a line somewhere when things should not be shared any further. You ask this person you know how their day was, they say it was awful and go into the details of the not so nice day at work, or whatever. This person comes in, goes into great length about some family issues, how they cannot really cope and the people in chat are left to try and deal because you really don't like to see people down, but what can you do? You are just an anonymous stranger who knows how far away. Should you really indulge that sort of pouring out? Its nice to know details of someone's life, it helps you to get to know that person, but at some point it gets to be a whining thing and there should be a 'do not disturb' sign hung around that chatter's neck.
I suppose some feel that SST chat is one of the only outlets for them, they have no other friends really who would sit there and listen, or read as the case may be. So they use what they have, in the hopes that someone will be able to comfort them. But what is truth? How can you be sure of anything anyone says? I guess that is taking it a bit too far, as you get to know these chatters you learn to trust them, you hope for the best in them. You want what is best for them, even if you know them just through an online chat.
I believe though, there should be a point where one realizes their complaints and troubles are a bit too much for the chat to handle. I believe people should be more aware of who the others are in the chat and what they really want to hear. But i also believe that not everyone is so aware and not everyone really cares. They just want to spew their troubles and that is it. Care for me please!!! I am so lonely and so depressed!!!
Did I anger you? Well these are my observations....take them at that....
Friday, February 12, 2010
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I don't think you're out of line with this post at all. I think most people who genuinely want to help the downtrodden are pretty good at steering them toward private messages, where more extensive advice can be given.
I've noticed that when some people come in and say something like "Ah, me!" on a regular basis in a bid for attention, the chat seems to ignore them and they usually go away or lurk for a while. If a regular is having a problem and wants some advice, everyone is pretty good about actually offering what they can. That's one thing I like about chat. Our chat friends are there for us when we need it, and talking about silly things is a good distraction from your troubles.
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